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  • NicoleDeRosa


Updated: May 10, 2023

Genuine connections are so special + staying plugged into them means being intentional with your time. It's hard to come by considerate , consistent + reliable people so if you have them in your life, share your gratitude + appreciation often.

It's okay to disconnect from the people, places + things that are forced, inconsistent + one sided. Boundaries feel so hard when you're used to putting everyone else before yourself + they were always necessary. Without them, you'll feel anxious, depressed, alone, exhausted + taken advantage of.

The more self aware you become + conscious of how valuable the energy inside of you is, the more thought you will give to where + who you pour it out to in life. It is healthy to check in + always work on ourselves + remind yourself that your energy is valuable + that you will only pour into genuine connections. The rest is not worth your time, worry or concern.

Your boundary need not be an angry electric fence that shocks those who touch it...It can be a consistent light around you that announces:
"I will be treated sacredly."

- Jaiya John

This is a topic that I plan on expanding upon more + also including in upcoming podcast episodes, where myself + others will talk more about creating healthy boundaries with yourself, relationships, friendships, family, partners, co-workers etc. I've been working on my mental health in virtual therapy + I have made a lot of progress creating boundaries with + for myself which, to give you an idea....look like this:

  • Having a bedtime

  • Deciding what my maximum amount of time I dedicate to work each week looks like.

  • Setting limits on my amount of screen time (tv, social media, phone)

  • Having an amount of time per week where I do a fun workout or move my body by stretching, walking or dancing.

  • Meditate daily (which could be using the Calm app or following a meditation on YouTube or simply sitting outside with a cup of my favorite PIQUE matcha, golden milk or tea listening to the birds chirp +meditate as I look up at the sky)

  • Going to doctors appointments (this has been a big deal for me - as I'm sure it has been for others, but I was having severe anxiety + panic attacks deciding if I was going to follow up on check ups, an MRI (for a hepatic hemangioma) or getting blood drawn during a pandemic. I always ask the doctors office to call me in from my car when a patient room is ready, so I don't have a panic attack in the waiting room.)

Don't apologize for your priorities. If it's important to you, be proud of it and don't apologize for it.

There may be situations where you may feel the urge to dampen the importance of your priorities because others don't understand or value what you prioritize. Don't worry, it's natural. In fact, as human beings, there is sometimes a pull that encourages us to make others feel comfortable even at our own expense. Whenever you feel the urge to apologize for your priorities, remember that YOU matter + YOU are of value. Protect your mental health + well being.

Things You DON'T Need To APOLOGIZE For

  • Existing

  • Saying, "no"

  • Setting boundaries that protect your peace of mind

  • Not responding to things not worth your energy

  • Prioritizing your selfcare

  • Disappointing people when you do prioritize your selfcare

  • Outgrowing people, places, things

  • Outgrowing parts of yourself

  • Ending a toxic friendship or relationship

  • Following your dream

  • Telling the truth

  • Your priorities

  • Delay in your response

  • Asking for clarification

  • Needing help

  • Crying / Showing emotion

  • Asking for attention

  • Your imperfections

Now, finish this sentence on your own:

"I'm done apologizing for _____________________________________."

To be clear, unless you've done something intentionally wrong or intentionally hurt someone, stop apologizing.

I'd like to thank YOU. Yes, you the one reading this. I'd like to say a big thank you for your continued engagement. I am so thankful for you being here. Writing (or typing, as it were) has been so therapeutic for me + it makes me so happy to hear from you. Let me know if the above resonates with you in the comments section below. I love hearing from you!

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Feb 24, 2021

I want to Thank everyone for there responses and hope my journey inspires others to participate in a healthy lifestyle

Special Thank You to my Daughter Nicole and Wife Joyce for keeping me focused in meeting my goals

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